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Father’s Day rolls around each year to less and less fanfare. For Mother’s Day, we see ads for at least a week before the holiday. For Father’s Day, we see a couple of ads on tv and in the magazines that encourage you to buy ties, or barbeque steaks a few days before the holiday. We all know that Father’s Day isn’t the cash cow that Mother’s Day is, but that has a lot to do with how we view the role of a father in society today. Fathers have become expendable. So often, women say that they in their families they are both father and mother. Saying this over and over is embedding a negative thought process in our psyche. It’s saying that men are not necessary in our families and it’s leading to something even worse- the continuation of dysfunctional families. Don’t get me wrong, women have been the backbones of our family units for centuries. But in today’s society, we must contend with the fact that not all females are nurturers or mother material simply because they are women. There are women who walk away from the children that they birth and even worse, there are more and more cases of mothers killing the children that they birth. But we like to slide that under the rug and talk about the men who are absent in our family unit. I’d like to challenge your thinking and encourage you to see how necessary men are in our families. First off, unless the sperm is present, there is no fertilizing the egg to even have conception. Men are necessary. Yes, my hat goes off to the women that have to raise their children alone due to death or incarceration or simple absence of the man that took part in that conception process. But let’s be honest. Most of the time, it’s not blindsiding you that this man left you alone with a child. That man that left you is the same man that you chose to sleep with. Maybe you weren’t mature enough to think about that when you slept with him, but that no good man that you rant about is not paying you child support, probably couldn’t keep a job before you slept with him. He just looks less sexy now that he’s not providing for you and your child. There is contradiction in the way that women claim that they don’t need a man, but complain that they want one and that there are no good ones available. Men are necessary. Have you questioned what it is in you that only allows you to see the men that aren’t good material? And let’s think, just because he’s not good with you doesn’t mean he’s not a good man. It may just mean he’s not a good fit for you. Women have to take responsibility as well for cleaning up the way that we view men in society. Too many women have been raised to think that we don’t need men in their families simply because a man was not present in theirs. But that doesn’t mean that men are not necessary. From this mindset, we have women in confusion- wanting a man in their lives to provide comfort, security, and love and companionship, but not knowing how to accept a man in our lives to do so because you don’t know what that looks like or what it feels like. This is why so many women are experiencing failed intimate relationships. Knowing what a healthy relationshp looks like starts from childhood. Feeling that love and support from a father enables you to know what to look for when you are dating and looking for a mate. As a result of fathers not being in the home or being absent, we have women with low self-esteem, and inflated senses of responsibility and ego who state “I don’t need a man. I can do a man’s job” as they sit lonely and complaining that there are no good men. Women are confused as to why they can’t find a good man or maintain relationships or why men are always saying that women are so angry- especially black women. It’s because of the initial break down in our family unit. It has been drilled in our heads that men are not necessary, but you are confused by the fact that you want one in your life- so there goes the push and pull of contradiction. How can you maintain a positive and healthy relationship when possibly neither you nor your mate knows what one looks like? Trust me when I say that our children hear us loud and clear when they see and hear women say that men are not necessary. For our girls, it tells them that they are destined to live a life full of working to overcompensate for something that is missing and that they will have to perpetually go without the fundamentals- love and security. For our boys, it tells them that they don’t count and that no one cares about them and that they are not capable of loving and providing. Then we wonder why are boys are destructive and our girls are either overly needy for a man’s attention or they are too cold to accept the attention of a good man. When will things change? How can things change? If you look at most religions, there is the pairing of male and female. In most societies, there is masculine and feminine energy because it is meant to be a balance of both. I submit to you that men are more than someone to teach sports or how to fix a car. Men are providers and as head of household, provide an amount of stability that is balanced out by feminine energy. We have to stop speaking into the universe that men are not needed in our families and start to view men as necessary in our lives and homes. I say all of this as someone who did experience growing up without a father. My dad left us when I was about 12. Not only did he leave my mom, but he was not physically or emotionally there for us after leaving our home. It’s not something that I talk about much, but it began to shape the way that I viewed the role of men in our families. I saw my mother make it without him and I loved that strength and I knew that women were strong and capable of anything. But I also learned that the love that my mom had for me and my sister couldn’t replace her need for companionship. My paternal grandfather taught me what I wanted to know about what it means to have a successful marriage and what to look for in a potential husband. I don’t know what it feels like to have your father cock the shotgun because your date shows up at your door. I’ve never had a conversation with my father about dating or marriage. My mom talked with me about those things, but my grandfather gave it to me from a male perspective- something my mother could never do. When my husband proposed, when I told my mom, she talked to me about maintaining my independence in the relationship as I become a wife and a mother. She taught me how to balance my life in the midst of wearing all of those hats. What my grandfather told me was something my mother couldn’t. My grandfather told me what a man is supposed to bring to the table in marriage. His first question for me was, “What’s his vice?” My answer, “Working hard.” He approved and said that meant that he would be a man that would provide at any cost. He also told me how men view marriage, fatherhood, and relationships and try as she might, my mother couldn’t give me any information like that and what my grandfather told me what is important. Men are necessary. So, now as a mother of both a son and a daughter, I know how important it is to have that male influence in their lives. My husband provides the balance that is needed in our household. I’m happy that their father is there 24/7 and takes part in every area of their lives. I wouldn’t have it any other way. My husband has to teach my daughter what kind of man she should date and teach my son what kind of woman is appropriate to bring home to mama. I look forward to the day that my husband cocks his shotgun and scares the living daylights out of some poor little boy.
I had a friend ask me how I have the time in my day to do all that I do. I don’t really have an answer for that question. I just “do”. I don’t even think about it. Writing is a natural part of who I am. Anyone that really knows me knows me as a chatty person, but truth is in large social arenas, I’m very nervous. I’m also a pretty emotional, thinking creature, so to organize all that I ponder, I write. I never shared anything until about five years ago when I published my first book.
It was an amazing rush to know that people actually cared about the things that I thought and the things that I imagined. So I continue to write. Being in the book business is not always immediately lucrative. It’s one of those things that you have to do because you love it. My goal for 2012 was to write and get paid to do so. I’ve accomplished that goal and have spent the past few months penning short stories for people through ghostwriting. I love it. I also love the fact that through ghostwriting I can write pretty much anything that I want to without attaching myself to it. It lets me get out of the box that people like to put one another in.
It’s nothing but uphill from here. Once you work within your talents, doors open. I have some short stories that I’m releasing on my own by the fall. Their juicy. You’ll love them.
I’m also writing a hot book tentatively titled Blood is Thicker with my sister of the pen, SD Denny. All I can say is “Chile…umm, umm, umm.” It’s going to be something new and something different. Look for it on Peace in the Storm Publishing this winter.
Peace luv bugs, I have more writing to do. I’ll keep you all posted and thanks for supporting me!
Nikki has seen more in her twenty years than most have seen in a lifetime. The mean streets of Baltimore have claimed the lives of her loved ones and given no regrets. When her grandmother succumbs to a long term illness, Nikki is on her own for the first time in her life and revenge is fresh on her mind. The only question is, will revenge be as sweet as she envisions it to be? Grip’s parents have seen how the Baltimore drug trade can tear a family apart. They’ve spent their lives making sure that their son is not exposed to the things they had to live through. Grip has lived a stable life in the suburbs and never once knew the meaning of struggle or what it’s like to be truly from the streets. Now that his infamous Uncle Travis is home from prison, will Grip soon follow in the footsteps of his notorious family? Lemon lives life only for today. His grandmother is his only support and he’s tired of taking from her so he turns to the only thing he knows- a life of selling the same drugs that left his absentee mother strung out and his father shot dead in a gutter. After a deal gone wrong, Lemon finds himself on the run in Baltimore County and hooked up with a group of unlikely suspects who have only one thing on their minds- fast money. Nikki, Grip, and Lemon meet by what they thought was chance and The CCC- Charm City Crew has their pictures everywhere after a chain of high stakes bank robberies. The Charm City crew eventually finds that their acquaintance is not by chance and that the mastermind of the crew is the last person they thought it would be.
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Live Your Best Life by Tamara Angela Grant- Discover the keys to living passionately and reducing stress in your life
The Total Package by JT Rich- Teens find out that love is not always what it seems and there are consequences to your actions!
Coming Soon by Dominique LeSane
When Love Calls: An Anthology
Dominique LeSane is back with a sexy anthology of finding love in the most unexpected places!
Bad Habits finds two lovers who thought it was over rekindling a passionate affair that threatens both of their new lives.
Trouble shows us what it’s like to give in to a passion that cannot be tamed.
Une grande affaire de couer lets us know that true love never dies.
Coming soon to Amazon Kindle in June 2012!
Also coming soon: Thrill of the Chase
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Enter bad boy Rasheed. He’s a charming playboy and has had his eye on Shondra. Will he get over his cheating ways for her or will those past mistakes catch up to him?
The Total Package is a story of young adults experiencing love for the first time and the reprocussions of the decisions that we make.
Author JT Rich has penned a story that all teens and young adults can relate to. A story of first loves and the power of choice.
Live Your Best Life offers tips on how to live life on purpose with purpose. How do you figure out what your passions and talents are? Live Your Best Life is a motivational guide to living the life of peace and purpose that you deserve.
Sherilyn’s husband Jack made her feel like a princess in the beginning. Jack provided her with a lifestyle that ensures that she has all that she needs at her fingertips. Now with a life of constant travel, his eyes and attention have turned elsewhere and Sherilyn is left to figure out for the first time in her life What She Wants.
In May/December Romance, May is a forty-something divorcee and who hasn’t been on a date worth mentioning in more than six years. Her son is grown and lives on his own and taking classes at the local arts and crafts store doesn’t cut it for her anymore. Her best friend convinces her that she should find a man that will make her feel vibrant and sexy. A chance encounter with a man half her age convinces May that a dip in the fountain of youth may not be a bad idea.
In Seven Year Itch, we meet Isaiah and Dara, a couple who has met under unconventional terms. Married after only dating a month, the couple has survived seven years of marriage. Only problem is the spark is gone in a relationship that once was passionate. Isaiah comes up with an idea that may save their relationships, only question is, is Dara game?